Rewards and Consequences For My ADD Child
There are many branches of psychology that suggest ways to change human behavior. The ADD/ADHD community generally follows the idea of rewarding desirable behavior and either ignoring and/or presenting consequences for undesirable behavior. Again, you know your child best. Some kids take well to praise while others seem react well by avoiding consequences at all costs. I will present you with a list of some ways to reward, ignore, and create consequences. Try them to see which work best for your child.
Rewards:
· Reward your child with verbal praise, hugs and kisses, or some quality time with someone or doing something instead of material objects.
· Change rewards as often as you can. ADD/ADHD kids will react well to the stimulation of a variety of rewards.
· Since many ADD kids are impulsive, make sure that rewards are immediate rather than delayed.
· Reward your child with something that is meaningful to him (i.e. extra time playing with Dad at night, extra video game time).
Consequences/Ignoring:
· Your child should know the potential consequences in advance so that he or she isn’t surprised when the consequence is delivered. This could prevent a potential meltdown.
· Know your child’s ‘triggers’. Don’t hand out a consequence that will devastate your child.
· Have your ADD/ADHD child verbalize what he or she did wrong and what he or she plans on doing in the future to avoid being in this position again.
The best way to incorporate these ideas is to create ADD/ADHD behavior contracts.









